Paste's -- "Worth it"

It's 2.26a.m. and I'm still awake. Staring at the Facebook Dilemma's Case Study, a long sigh I give. I'm still doing this work at this moment!!! Okay, I admit, it was my bad. I can't blame anyone nor anything but myself. I just couldn't concentrate on the book, and ended up doing the same work for the whole day.

Again, I was distracted away from the book and started clicking on the keypad.

Pooopppp....This anonymous blog entry came across my screen. I ran through it and felt that his way of describing a girl he likes is so UNIQUE. The girl seems to be unacknowledged of his feelings.

Anyway, the descriptions seem familiar, I've heard it somewhere. Perhaps, I've felt it somewhere. But, this is not the main point. The main point is to share his writing...(:

"She's just a girl".

Or so they say, but I would know better.

She's different. Special.

Never have I met someone so genuine.
Or amazing.
Or intelligent.
Or charming.
Or thoughtful.
Or witty.
Or mature.
Or just simply irresistibly alluring.

Never have I been so smitten or captivated... nor have I fallen so quickly and irrevocably for anyone before.

I have always taken pride in my state of mind and clear reasoning... but this is the closest I've been to succumbing to the irrationality of emotions, or to be more precise, the sudden absence of it.

All the pent-up desires, investment of hopes and possibilities... vanished within the span of a conversation, replaced by the phantoms of 'if only' and 'what ifs'.

I feel hollow. More hollow than I have in years.

But it was worth it.
SHE was worth it; every single ounce of effort, emotion and uncertainty....

Because clearly, she's not just any ordinary girl.

And I pray she knows that.

1、有些事，我们明知道是错的，也要去坚持，因为不甘心；有些人，我们明知道是爱的，也要去放弃，因为没结局；有时候，我们明知道没路了，却还在前行，因为习惯了。

2、以为蒙上了眼睛，就可以看不见这个世界；以为捂住了耳朵，就可以听不到所有的烦恼；以为脚步停了下来，心就可以不再远行.

3、那些已经犯过的错误，有一些是因为来不及，有一些是因为刻意躲避，更多的时候是茫然地站到了一边。

4、人最大的困难是认识自己，最容易的也是认识自己。很多时候，我们认不清自己，只因为我们把自己放在了一个错误的位置，给了自己一个错觉。所以，不怕前路坎坷，只怕从一开始就走错了方向。

5、如果你明明知道这个故事的结局，你或者选择说出来，或者装作不知道，万不要欲言又止。有时候留给别人的伤害，选择沉默比选择坦白要痛多了。

寫給以后陪我一起到老的人

可不可以有一个人。可以看穿我的逞强。可以保护我的脆弱？
　　
　　不要在我说「没事啦，你去吧」的时候就真的会放心的放开我的手然后留我一个人？
　　
　　不要在我笑笑的不说话的时候就真的会以为我心里没有觉得疼痛和难过？
　　
　　不要在我若无其事的忙碌着手头的事的时候就真的会以为我什么影响都没有受到？
　　
　　我希望他会在我的眼泪掉下以前就用大大的手掌捂住我的眼睛。
　　
　　然后轻声说我的眼睛只有微笑的时候才是最好看。
　　
　　我希望他会在我面无表情的时候轻轻的用力的搂紧我。然后说你在我的面前永远都不需要伪装坚强。
　　
　　我希望他会在我受到委屈的时候把我的脑袋按在他的肩膀上。然后抚着我的头发说没关系就算所有的人都不相信你，你都还有我。
　　
　　那個人不一定要是高高瘦瘦的，但是一定要干干净净。
　　
　　那個人不一定要会甜言蜜语，但是一定要有好的脾气。
　　
　　那個人一定会从我们牵手那刻起，对我说：从今天起，我们有福同享、有难我当。
　　
　　那個人一定要霸道些，他会对我说：我认定你了，就赖你了，你就是我一个人的、我不許别人走近你。
　　
　　那個人一定会支持我减肥，却依然带我去超市给我买很多好吃的，然后说：吃吧，不管你多胖我都要你。
　　
　　那個人一定会在过马路的时候牵着我的手，对我说：要跟我走。
　　
　　那個人一定会明白老婆是用来疼的，而且会吹着快乐的口哨和我一起做家务。
　　
　　那個人一定会在我生气的時候耐心的哄着，然后逗我说：你生气的样子，好丑。
　　
　　那個人一定会在我哭的时候为我擦眼泪，然后告訴我：乖、不哭，有我在呢。
　　
　　那個人一定会在我累的时候，伸出手臂，很心疼的说：抱抱。
　　
　　那個人一定会在睡覺前跟我说：你要早點睡覺，晚安。

*文章里的好多句，一句句的刺中内心深处的一股声音。突然发现，原来世界的另一角也存在着同种的女生。有人说，这种女生很“双面”；也有人说，这种女生很难捉摸。其实，当大家混熟时，都会觉得这个女生并不安静，甚至可以滔滔不绝的述说着她的故事。有一位朋友常说：“我从不觉得你是一个安静的人，也不懂为何别人都说你很静。” 也许，这位朋友在我心中占了很重要的位置，所以我们之间的谈话，可以天南地北，也可以天马行空，永远都有说不完的话题。

有一种女孩子在陌生人面前会很安静，很冷漠，
在熟人面前却很放肆，很霸道，
并喜欢一咋一呼的说：“滚，滚蛋，坏蛋，笨蛋”。
不要认为她很粗鲁，她只是很单纯的认为，
大家打打闹闹，骂骂笑笑，表示更亲切，更不分你我。

这一种女孩子不谈恋爱，只在姐妹间游荡
即使有不错的朋友，她还是无奈的笑笑
其实她只是在不能确定自己付出的前提下
不会接受，因为不想伤害。

这一种女孩子偶尔看到街上的情侣时，
也会幻想，也会羡慕，
幻想着将来自己的恋爱
该是多么的帅气，多么的温柔，多么的甜蜜

这一种女孩子，
喜欢和自己的姐妹在一起打闹，大呼小叫。
即使没有男朋友，
在她的世界里，也有她的骄傲！

这种女孩子也会偶尔的忧郁，
朋友问她怎么了 她也只会说没事
其实她只是感觉累了，
她只是需要一个拥抱。

这种女孩子不会轻易恋爱，恋爱了一定会好好珍惜。
她会骄傲的拉着他的手大街小逛，
不要认为她放肆，
她只是答应过姐妹们幸福要大家一块分享。

这样的女孩子恋爱的时候
喜欢大事听男孩子的而在小事上调皮，耍赖。
不要认为她太小气，蛮不讲理，
其实在她调皮的习惯里已经为你收敛不少！

这样的女孩子不允许男孩子的背叛，
如果男孩子真的办了对不起她的事，
她一定会狠心的离开你。
不要怪她太绝情，
她其实很爱你，但是卑微的爱情她不要，
她果断的转身只是不想让你看见她滑落的泪水！

这样的女孩子失恋的时候会在别人面前装的很好，
大声的笑，放声的闹。
当姐妹心疼的说：“你没事吧？”
她会放下她所有的骄傲，趴到姐妹怀里哭。
哭完了，苦笑一声：没想到我还会为一个男的哭。

若你遇到了这样的女孩，
如果你们是朋友，请原谅她平日的不理不睬，
其实她只是不会社交，不敢打扰，
你想想你的每一次邀约，她拒绝过你。
如果你喜欢上她，请你不要说出来，
因为她很幼稚，你会吓跑她。
原谅她的冷漠，
她只是怕伤害你！

若她喜欢上你，请你不要在她的世界里消失。
她没有更多的要求，不会打扰你的生活。
她只是想静静的看着你，
当你的观众，仅此而已。

如果你们已经在一起了，
请你好好珍惜她。
这样的女孩子、太傻，
请你别让她受伤。

这一种女孩子就以这样的方式生活着，
她有她的梦想，她的希望。
她时而快乐，时而忧伤；
时而郁闷，时而疯狂；
时而邪恶，时而善良；
时而脆弱，时而坚强！
你可以说她傻，也可以骂她笨，也可以说她冷，
但是她们还是生活在自己的世界里.

Simple & Meaningful

• You can't decide the length of life, but you can control how you want to live it.
• You can't control the weather, but you can control your mood.
• You can't change your look, but you can smile.
• You can't control others, but you can control yourself.
• You can't foresee tomorrow, but you can utilize today wisely.
• You can't win everything, but you can try your very best to achieve that.

P/s:
So, smile always and try your very best for every single thing that you're doing..
And lastly, a smile from me...=D

Dear scholars / JPA scholars--Part 2( a long quote from X's blog)

*The second part is here..Enjoy your reading.

Dear arrogant scholars, let me tell you this:
People who do not get straight A's in SPM are not stupid.
A friend of mine scored D's for Sejarah and Pendidikan Moral because they were utterly useless subjects and yet he performed brilliantly in his Pre-University examinations. He is currently reading Medicine in Monash University, no thanks to JPA.

People who do not take extra subjects at SPM level are not cowards or idiots.
This is EXACTLY the problem with Malaysia's education system. We are studying for the sake of getting A's, not for the sake of learning.

Intelligence is not measured by the quantity of A's but by the quality of A's.
The threshold mark for an A1 at SPM level is approximately 75 (possibly lower). Tell me, is getting 10A1 with an average of 95 marks better than 12A1 with an average of 75 marks? Why is it that the latter is likelier to obtain a JPA scholarship than the former?

SPM is a fucked-up gauge of intelligence.
Grade inflation, rote learning, flawed marking techniques, lack of emphasis on critical thinking, rigid syllabus; all these factors contribute to the impending demise of SPM as a measure of cognitive ability.

A scholar should display not just intellectual qualities but also a mentality Malaysia can be proud of.

You cannot imagine how sick I am of reading "Omg, JPA punya cutoff tinggi le.. tak tau boleh fly tak.." [translated: Omg, JPA's cutoff score is so high.. I'm not sure if I can make it].

You know what? Quit whining. JPA's cutoff is LOW. If you cannot achieve a TER of 85 (for AusMat, SAM) then you don't deserve to be a scholar in the first place. I assure you, there are countless others out there who are more befitting to be scholars. Don't for one moment think that you are irreplacable.

A scholar has no right to complain about his/her scholarship.

"JPA's monthly allowance is too meagre!"

"I wanted to go to Australia but they gave me UK! Bodoh!"

"I wanted to do course A instead of course B! Stupid JPA!"

"The bond is too long! I demand it to be shortened!"

Talk about being unappreciative. You have been given the chance of a lifetime; an all-expenses paid window to knowledge and learning; and yet you bemoan your apparent 'misfortune'. Pathetic.

*Scholars should strive for perfection and not just be content with mediocrity.*

I cannot stress this point enough... Yes, I know the cutoff is TER85 or BBB, but can you please please please please pleaseeee aim higher??

How can you even be happy? I personally would be ashamed to call myself a scholar.. Imagine heading overseas as a proud recipient of a Malaysian government scholarship only to be mocked by the locals: "You're among the best of Malaysian students? I expected better.."

Humiliating..

Know your standing!
Yes, you are a scholar. Yes, you are good, no questions about that. However, you are definitely NOT the best. The smartest, nicest and most deserving of my friends out there are not scholars.

Sad though, they could've made Malaysia proud.. And kick all of your asses along the way.

I reiterate: Do not for one moment think that the country needs you. Quite the contrary, YOU need the country; for the RM 1 million or so required to fund your studies came from the pockets of all 27 million citizens. Your scholarship is a privilege, a commitment; not a right.

You are Malaysia's junior ambassadors.
That means....

No typing like this: "Ko nak pgi fly bsok tpi ko x tau cme mne nk cari kapai tbang."

or this: "Aiyo sei lo.. How lehh, ta lecturer veli st0pid la.. Duno hw to teach wan.. If kenot fly then her fault oni la! Tiu.."

It also means not acting like complete morons when you are overseas, which includes;
~No gawking at the breasts of Caucasian girls.
~No excessive slouching to the extent where you look like an invertebrate. Slouching= Not cool.
~No FAILING in university.
~And certainly NO starting of Facebook threads entitled "Why Do You Think We Are Deserved JPA Scholar."

The self-righteousness... It burns!
The English... It burns even more!

I repeat, the insinuating comments above were meant ONLY and ONLY for the fucktards of scholars.

And yet yet again, I repeat.... I acknowledge that fucktard scholars constitute merely a small portion of the entire scholar community and that the overwhelming majority of you guys are full of awesomeness.

As a closing sentiment, I shall bring this to the top:

You are a part of an elite group of budding academicians, a circle of high achievers whom, with the proper motivation and hardwork, will go on to do great things. You have been rigorously selected and given a priceless opportunity by the government, under the impression that you are the creme' de la creme' of students, to live your dreams and to walk the corridors of excellence. You are, in the eyes of the society, government and fellow students, the emancipation of academic brilliance. You are superior. You are a JPA scholar.

Hence, don't screw up.


*What is in your mind after the reading??Well,you yourself know it!!

p.s.:
After the reading, I have the feeling that I really don't deserve the scholarship, but I've to strive harder to fully 'utilise' this golden chance as well as not to waste the limited opportunity..Cos I'm REPLACEABLE....haha

p.s.p.s.: I apologise for pasting the indecent words, as the entry won't be able to express the true feeling of the author if I delete them.

Dear scholars / JPA scholars--Part 1( a long quote from X's blog)

I found this interesting and entertaining. The author of this entry is a young future doctor and he's now studying medic in Australia. If I'm not mistaken, he is 19!! Though I don't agree with some of his viewpoints, most of the sayings are true!!!! So, enjoy your reading..=)

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I am a part of an elite group of budding academicians; a circle of high achievers whom, with the proper motivation and hardwork, will go on to do great things. I have been rigorously selected and have been given a priceless opportunity by the government, under the impression that I am the creme' de la creme' of students, to live my dreams and to walk the corridors of excellence. I am, in the eyes of the society, government and fellow students, the emancipation of academic brilliance. I am superior. I am a JPA scholar.


What about you? A few years ago, you were a reject; an outcast from the pinnacle of intelligence. You are a second-grade high achiever; nothing more than a casualty of the firing squad, a casualty of competition. You are inferior. You are a JPA reject.

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Dear JPA scholars (or any other scholars )......

Deep inside your heart, have the thoughts above ever crossed your mind?



If yes, then I highly suggest that you shoot yourself.

I have hopped through countless blogs, browsed volumes of student forums, met numerous people and even got a bit nosy in Facebook.. And it is with great displeasure to announce that there exists a small minority of scholars who actually DO HAVE the superiority complex described above.

And they disgust me.


I am in no way implying that ALL scholars are foul bastards as described above. Likewise, I am in no way accustomed to seeing JPA scholars in the light of greatness. Incidentally, respect has to be earned, not demanded or gifted by authority..

And certainly not merely by receiving the JPA scholarship.


I have seen the ugly side of scholars and I am certainly not the only one;


I have been ridiculed by 'scholars' because I did not obtain the scholarship.


I have been deemed inferior because they assume I am intellectually unworthy of a scholarship, hence my rejection.

I have been given the tags 'bad communication skills' and 'socially challenged' on grounds that I have been rejected.

When I rant about the unfair distribution of scholarships, I have been termed jealous and sour.

And so, I dedicate this post to you, the scumbag scholars. (and ONLY to the scumbag scholars. I know very well that there are HEAPS of exquisitely nice scholars out there. :D)




p.s. : As the post is super long, I've to cut it into parts. So, mooreee are coming! =)

心态的力量--我想成为鸡蛋

*A note tagged by sis.I found it meaningful and indeed,quite motivational.

女兒向父親抱怨，事事都很艱難。 她不知如何應付生活，好像一個問題剛剛解決，新的問題又

會出現，她有些厭倦。父親是一位廚師，把她帶進廚房。他先往三口鍋裡倒入一些水，然後放在旺火上。 不久，水開了。

他往第一口鍋裡放一些胡蘿蔔，第二口鍋裡放入雞蛋，第三口鍋裡放入碾成粉末的咖啡豆。20分鐘後，父親把火關了，把胡蘿蔔撈出來，放入一個碗內，把雞蛋撈出來，放入一個鍋內，然後把咖啡舀到一個杯子裡。

父親轉身問女兒：「孩子，你看到了什麼？」

「胡蘿蔔，雞蛋，咖啡。」她說。

他讓她靠近一些，摸摸胡蘿蔔。
她注意到他它們變軟了。父親又讓女兒拿一個雞蛋，打破它，剝掉殼，這是一個煮熟的雞蛋。

最後，父親讓她喝了一口咖啡。 嘗到濃濃的咖啡，女兒笑了，怯聲問道：「父親，這意味著什麼？」

父親說，三樣東西面臨同樣的逆境—-煮沸的開水。但其反映各不相同。

胡蘿蔔入鍋前是強壯的、結實的，放進開水，它變軟了、變弱了。
雞蛋原來是易碎的，薄薄的外殼保護著液態的內臟，開水一煮，內臟變硬。 粉狀咖啡豆則很獨特，進入沸水，它們便改變了水。

在艱難和逆境前，可以學胡蘿蔔、雞蛋和咖啡豆，可以屈服，也可以變得更堅強—-甚至，可以改變環境。

父親說：你改變不了環境，但可以改變自己；你改變不了事實，但可以改變態度；你改變不了過去，但可以改變現在；你不能控制他人，但可以掌握自己；你不能預知明天，但可以把握今天；你不能樣樣順利，但可以事實盡心；你不能左右天氣，但可以改變心情；你不能改變容貌，但可以展現笑容；

是的，心態有時比什麼都重要。

以不同的角度看待人生

宽阔而快乐的心胸，能让世界更加美好。

好的想法可以改变一切。

即使在梦里，父母也绝对是完全免费的港湾。

离家后，每一样东西都可以带着思念。

公平就是这么滑稽

缺乏知识是很可怕的事情

不同的窗口有不同的风景

你能搬得动梦想！

伤了不表示你从此不能再飞

低调的融入周遭事物，其实也会很美好

你或许和周围的人不一样，别人为了生活忙碌，你却想着怎么飞走

也许向往自由的你，会让他人受到伤害。(飞走了，它就淹死了)

Nerd's love note

I fear that I will always be A lonely number like root three
A three is all that’s good and right
Why must my three keep out of sight Beneath a vicious square-root sign?
I wish instead I were a nine
For nine could thwart this evil trick With just some quick arithmetic
I know I’ll never see the sun As 1.7321
Such is my reality A sad irrationality
When, hark, just what is this I see?
Another square root of a three
Has quietly come waltzing by
Together now we multiply
To form a number we prefer
Rejoicing as an integer
We break free from our mortal bonds
And with a wave of magic wands
Our square-root signs become unglued
And love for me has been renewed

-Harold and Kumar

星座分析之双子

又是一封mail的copy&paste。这封好像形容了我不少的心声，有些还蛮准。仿佛看到了另一个自己，一个没有人晓得的自己。其实我也不懂自己是双子或金牛，也许是金牛尾，双子头吧....总之，就paste双子吧，这封可以找到更多相似点....

双子座终极完美分析
有很多的朋友，可是'看起来朋友很多，可是知心的没有几个'这句话很深刻的形容了双子。双子很能说话，他跟别人可以天南地北的聊，可以聊得很八 卦，也会聊一些很严肃的话题。双子可以跟你聊很多东西，可是注意了，他都只是跟你聊一些不关自己的事。随便他跟你说些什么，可是跟自己有关的都只是些皮毛 而已。比如，今天又有某个明星怎样怎样了；隔壁班有多少美女帅哥的。关于自己的事，他几乎是不说的，就算是说，也是说一些关于自己无关痛痒的事。当你想更 进一步的了解双子，他会很自然的把话题给扯开。

对于自信的双子来说，他又同时很没有安全感，这是双子特有的矛盾。他喜欢把自己重重包围住，不让自己暴露。对于双子来说，如果在一个 还不了解的人面前把自己暴露了，就等于让别人抓住了自己的把柄。这样就失去了一定的优势。当双子感到独孤悲伤时，只会一个人躲在房间里哭，或者一个人郁闷 着。

双子也很怕被伤害，很多时候宁愿自己承受一切，也不愿别人抓住自己的把柄。所以久而久之也就养成了习惯。双子基本上也是个很痛苦的 人。表面上总是很有活力，很快乐的样子，可是没人的时候他又总是很忧伤。双子总会被一种莫名的悲伤笼罩。但他不会让别人发现的，他怕被伤害，也怕被别人抛 弃，只能自己硬挺着一切。所以双子很神经质，精神脆弱，容易人格分裂，因为承受了太多的东西.
一般来说双子的孩子都很早熟。双子对很多的东西都在乎得要命，可是表面上就是看起来什么都不在乎。双子并不是故意要掩饰自己，上面说了，这只是一种习惯了，可是在外人看来他就成了虚伪的人。

双子是被公认的最花心、最冷酷无情的星座。其实对于双子的花心，真的不想再说些什么了。解释得太多，累了，也没耐心了。可是说起双子，就 不得不提感情，双子这一生，似乎必须被感情牵伴，跟爱情纠缠一世。很多人说双子并不花心，只是博爱，所以才会有那么好的人缘。忘了在哪里看见了这样的一句 话：双子最大的悲哀在于有两个人的思想，却只有一个人的身体，双子有爱自己所爱的人的权利，也有保护彼此所爱的人的义务，双子只剩下一个时，爱也就只剩下 义务了。
我想用如来若去说的一句话给双子的花心做个总结：花心的极端就是痴心的可怕。该懂的人应该会懂的。至于冷酷无情真的不知道该从何说起。其实双 子是最平和的星座，如果可以不发生冲突，都会尽量避免。双子也很少跟别人吵架，他讨厌吵架，如果是因为一些生活琐碎小事吵架，那么双子就在吵完的那一刻就 把这件事给忘了；

要双子真的跟你翻脸，除非是你的所作所为或所说的话实在让双子不能忍受，这时他会很鄙视得看你一眼，然后头也不回地走掉，甚至会不给 你留面子地离开。这时你一辈子也别想再和他和好了，就算有的双子碍于面子和你再成为朋友，但是他们已经对你鄙视到了极点，只不过维持着这一层不得不维持的 '朋友'关系其实，很大一部分双子，对待感情是非常专一的，之所以给人留下花心的美名，是因为很少有人能够让略带童心的双子动真感情，不是双子铁石心肠， 而是双子个性里面天生有一些忧郁，一些潜在的不自信，只是双子隐藏的深入，可是一旦让双子动了真感情，那么恭喜你了，双子的天真，率直，外加表达能力丰 富，一定能让你获得很多快乐。

每个双子都有一个故事隐藏在心里，多数是不堪回首的往事，双子是个念旧或者说是喜欢沉浸在回忆中的星座，他（她）的这个故事通常都是 因情所困，动了感情而被伤害了的双子是脆弱的，也是坚强的，他（她）可以很快的振作起来，可以当什么事都没有发生，这些都是双子演给世人看的罢了，等到夜 深人静的时候，双子内心的伤痛随着血液渗透到全身，他（她）可以一整夜的去回忆之前的点点滴滴，可以一整夜的沉浸在痛苦之中，可以一整夜坐在那里发呆，但 是，一旦天亮了，要出去见人了，双子马上就从痛苦中抽身而走，你看到的肯定是一个神采奕奕的双子，这就是双子，拥有双重性格的双子，一个在世人面前乐天， 快乐，在孤独夜晚独自伤悲的双子。

双子的爱是最永恒的，可以付出一切，有人说我们花心，那时我们没有真正的爱，当双子爱上一个人的时候是痛苦的，因为我们太敏感。假如 双子爱上了一个不爱自己的人，那莫我相信他永远都不会再爱了，当爱给过了一个人，他再也没有能力再付出了，其实太多的人都不懂我们，其实连我们自己都不懂 自己，我们很会伪装，很会说谎，但我们最细腻，对感情最敏感，双子的爱与悲伤，谁又真的了解！

Big five theory--personality test

Trait		Raw Percentage
Openness		58%
Conscientiousness		56%
Extraversion		56%
Agreeableness		60%
Neuroticism		45%

Openness

This trait refers to the extent to which you prefer novelty versus convention. Approximately 16% of respondents have a lower openness raw percentage than yours. From the way you answered the questions, you seem to describe yourself as someone who is down-to-earth and prefers things to be simple and straightforwards. You might say that it just makes life easier if things don't change unnecessarily, that the arts are of no practical use to you, and that you think tradition is more important than others do.

Reflective question: How do you react to change?

Conscientiousness

This trait refers to the extent to which you prefer an organised, or a flexible, approach in life. Approximately 34.5% of respondents have a lower conscientiousness raw percentage than yours. From the way you answered the questions, you seem to describe yourself as someone who is spontaneous and fun, and that you like to do unexpected things that make life that bit more interesting. You might say that you aren't completely unreliable, but you've been known to slip up on occasion.

Reflective question: How do you go about tackling a new task?

Extraversion

This trait refers to the extent to which you enjoy company, and seek excitement and stimulation. Approximately 34.5% of respondents have a lower extraversion raw percentage than yours. From the way you answered the questions, you seem to describe yourself as someone who prefers low-key social occasions, with a few close friends. You might say that it's not that you are afraid of large parties; they're just not that fun for you.

Reflective question: How do you like to spend your spare time?

Agreeableness

This trait refers to the way you express your opinions and manage relationships. Approximately 38.2% of respondents have a lower agreeableness raw percentage than yours. From the way you answered the questions, you seem to describe yourself as someone who people can find difficult to get along with when you first meet, as you can be suspicious of their motives. Your responses suggest that over time though people warm to you, and you to them, although that doesn't stop you telling them "how it is".

Reflective question: When others are experiencing problems, what do you do?

Neuroticism (Emotional stability)

This trait refers to the way you cope with, and respond to, life's demands. Approximately 54% of respondents have a lower neuroticism raw percentage than yours. From the way you answered the questions, you seem to describe yourself as someone who is generally calm. Based on your responses, you come across as someone who can feel emotional or stressed out by some experiences, however your feelings tend to be warranted by the situation.

Reflective question: When do your emotions (or lack of emotions) get in the way of good decision making?

千里之外（母亲篇）

在外生活，才会体验到游子心切，体会到母亲的不舍之情，
却又不得不让我们远去，去追求更好的生活；但她们的内心却有千万份的不放心。
也许，一个疲惫的身心想要找回安全的归属吧。
也许，归家永远都是最安全的归属。

千里之外（母亲篇）
歌词改编：音缘

（1）有一种感觉，温暖涌出来，那是慈母爱。
宽容的胸怀，他喜怒哀乐，都随你摇摆，
往昔岁月中，付出的关爱，总无法忘怀，
孩子的成长，心牵怎么堪，母亲最艰难。

梦醒来，是谁在呵护，你不受伤害;
珍贵母爱，无私倾注，总让人心感慨。

她让你离开，千里之外，你寻找精彩,
寂寞家中，慈母音声，在为你喝彩；
她看你离开，天涯之外，牵挂放不开，
一转眼间，两鬓斑白，她一生，在等待。

（2）落叶离枝头，时间被安排，你毅然离开；
慈祥的脸庞，伫立寒风外，泪水在忍耐；
真是场意外，命运在徘徊，何时能自在；
游子远行去，意恐迟归来，母亲在感慨。

梦醒来，是谁在门外，盼着你归来？
什么时候，享受天伦，他依然在期待。

她送你离开，千里之外，你看似精彩，
想念成害，思念成灾，你还不回来！
她看你离开，天涯之外，时刻在等待。
心甘情愿，两鬓斑白，
她一生，在等待。

Mail--用最成熟的心态来选择自己的朋友

一个普通的朋友从未看过你哭泣；
一个真正的朋友有双肩让你的泪水湿尽。
一个普通的朋友不知道你父母的姓氏；
一个真正的朋友有他们的电话在通讯簿上。
一个普通的朋友会带瓶葡萄酒参加你的派对；
一个真正的朋友会早点来帮你准备，为了帮你打扫而晚点走。
一个普通的朋友讨厌你在他睡了后打来；
一个真正的朋友会问为什么现在才打来。
一个普通的朋友找你谈论你的困扰；
一个真正的朋友找你解决你的困扰。
一个普通的朋友对你的罗曼史感到好奇；
一个真正的朋友可以威胁你说出来。
一个普通的朋友在拜访时，像一个客人一样；
一个真正的朋友会打开冰箱自己拿东西。
一个普通的朋友在吵架后就认为友谊已经结束；
一个真正的朋友明白当你们还没打过架就不叫真正的友谊。
一个普通的朋友期望你永远在他身边陪他；
一个真正的朋友期望他能永远陪在你身旁

Tree--friendship

建 立 友 誼 如 像 種 樹 ，
因 為 友 誼 是 一 株 樹
( T R E E ) :
T : T r u s t ( 信 任 )
R : R e s p e c t ( 尊 重 )
E : E x c h a n g e ( 交 流 )
E : E m o t i o n a l S u p p o r t ( 精 神 支 持 )

I believe

I believe -that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I believe
that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I believe
that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I believe
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

I believe -that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I believe
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

I believe -that you can keep going long even after you can't.

I believe -that we are responsible for what we do,no matter how we feel.

I believe -that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I believe
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first,
the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I believe
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.

I believe -that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe -that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I believe
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down,
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I believe
that sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I believe
that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to
doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I believe
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them
and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I believe
that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I believe
that no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I believe
that our background and circumstances may have influenced on who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.

I believe
that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do.

I believe
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret.
It could change your life forever..

I believe -that two people can look at the exact samething and see something totally different.

I believe -that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe
that even when you think you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you
you will find the strength to help.

I believe -that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I believe -that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.


Lastly---- i'm nobody

Mail--你能分清楚爱和喜欢吗？

收到这封mail,看过了一遍又一遍，还是不懂，也许，我心中没爱吧？也许，我不懂爱....就算了吧，顺其自然，等上天想要让我懂时，自然会懂。爱？？喜欢？？一个特别的话题....就把它摆上来吧....

你能分清楚爱和喜欢吗？
喜歡和愛咫尺千里。

當你喜歡一個人時，你想和他在一起，因為他會帶給你快樂；

離開後，你會想念，想著想著就會笑，然後繼續你平靜的生活，並期待著與他再一次重逢。

當你愛一個人時，你想和他在一起，那是一種牽腸掛肚的捨不得，怕他受委屈，怕他不能好好照顧自己；

離開後，你也會想念，想著想著歎一口氣，'不知他現在過的怎樣？'

然後你繼續你平靜的生活，希望他早日回到你身邊。

你喜歡的人在你眼中是天使，無所不能，他總會滿足你的任性的要求。

你愛的人在你眼中是孩子，傻傻的，你不期望他做出什麼'好事'來，只一味縱容他那些讓人哭笑不得的舉動。

你會希望你喜歡的人陪著你，然而你心中想的可能是你愛的人；

你會希望陪在你愛的人身邊，看他在你面前睡得如此安逸甜美毫不設防的樣子，你會微笑，會覺得好幸福。

你喜歡的人傷害了你，你會生氣，並且一定要讓他哄著騙著逗你笑你才原諒他；

你愛的人傷害了你，你只會獨自傷心，因為你怕對他大吼大叫會嚇著他，你憂傷地微笑著，看著他的眼睛，

一旦發現他的眼裡流露出歉意和悔恨，你會立即心疼地摟他在懷裡，

那一刻，你也是幸福的。

你可以同時喜歡很多人，你會希望和很多人在一起，

但也許很多年後你才發現，原來你愛的就只有那麼一個，就那麼一個，怎麼都不會變，

你以為把他忘記了，其實只是忙的沒空想起而已，

對於你喜歡的人，你關注的是他的優點；對於你愛的人，你關注的是他的缺點，

並且，那些缺點如果無關原則的話，它們在你眼裡是可愛的，獨一無二的。

喜歡和愛其實只有一紙之隔，任何愛都從喜歡開始，

當有天你突然發現，你喜歡的那個人在你眼中不再完美，

而他的瑕疵正如月中的桂影一般讓你更加依依不捨，你會覺得與他光彩照人的一面相比，

你更願意看他在你面前無助的表情，不知道是不是應該祝賀你，

總之，你的感情昇華了——仰慕不是愛，甚至不是喜歡，

當你對一個人只有仰慕之情時，你們在一起便失去了和諧。

有人說愛一個人很累，

的確是，因為你想為他承擔，

可是愛與喜歡相比最大的魅力就在於，當你和愛的人在一起時，你的感覺就像回家了！

观察

冷漠 有时候并不是无情，
只是一种避免被伤害的工具

付出真心，才会得到真心；
却也可能被伤到彻底；
保持距离，才能真正的保护自己；
却也注定永远寂寞

朋友 就是把你看透了，
还喜欢和你做朋友的人

好朋友 并不是在一起就有聊不完的话题；
而是在一起，就算不说话，也不会感到尴尬

就算是believe，
中间也藏了一个lie字